Elegance. I strive to be an elegant woman. Elegance can mean a lot of different things. It can encompass manners and etiquette, and also includes having an elegant mindset, dreaming up elegant solutions, creating elegant surroundings, and moving through this world with grace and beauty. There are some behaviors that are the enemy of elegance. Here are 7 things elegant women never do.

1. Elegant Women Don’t Participate In Gossip

People who gossip are insecure. When you are creating a successful life for yourself, you won’t have the time or feel the need to gossip. Who needs the drama? I’m sure you don’t want people talking negatively about you behind your back. Don’t do it to others. Be an example. You don’t need that kind of negative energy in your life.

2. Elegant Women Don’t Complain

What does it get you? It may make you feel better in the moment to vent with your coworkers or friends. But it doesn’t accomplish anything at the end of the day? It wastes time you could be using to create positive change in your life. Don’t fall into the habit of complaining. People who complain all the time are not fun to be around.

3. Elegant Women Don’t Overshare

Elegant ladies keep an air of mystery. Spilling out all of your triumphs and tragedies on social media or in conversations can be such a bore. Allow people to slowly read your book. Mystery is very attractive.

4. Elegant Women Don’t Flaunt Their Money

It’s wonderful to be able to enjoy the finer things in life. But do it quietly and elegantly.
Plastering yourself with designer labels in not elegant, it makes you look like you’re trying too hard. To paraphrase Coco Chanel, true elegance is the silk lining of a coat. Only you know it’s there.

5. Elegant Women Don’t Try To Be Perfect

Perfection is the killer of happiness. No one is perfect and it’s an impossible dream, so don’t waste time on it. Embrace your imperfections. It’s often the imperfections in people that we love. Allow ourselves the same consideration.

6. Elegant Women Don’t Allow Clutter

A cluttered environment leads to a cluttered mind which leads to a cluttered life. Edit your life. Keep only what you really love and get rid of all the unnecessary baggage. Having too many things will weigh you down. You can’t take flight when your life is so heavy.

7. Elegant Women Never Give Up

Elegant women don’t let fear get in their way. They work through it. Fear of failure. Fear of success. The only thing to fear is never trying. They also don’t allow other people’s opinions to upset their plans. Only you know what you really want out of life. Keep striving for it, no matter what.

Are you striving to create an elegant life? Do you agree with my 7 things elegant women never do? Do you have any to add? Let me know in the comments section. I’d love to hear how you define elegance.

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